Hellos to all you wonderful people out there. And to the two wonderful women who actually bother to comment a huge muaaaaaaaaah…. Keep commenting ;)
As you might have already guessed today I am very happy the reasons being, I am with my family, the people whom I love the most. The more I think about it, I realize how much I love them and miss being with them when I am not around. So imagine my utter surprise when I walked in home and saw that not only my immediate cousins but also a couple of my extended cousins were home. Ok, not to welcome me (though that would have been the perfect cherry on the cake) but to watch the videos of my brothers wedding (he got married on 19th April, remember to congratulate him next year). Big deal, the most important thing was they all were here and I was happy. And I give all the credit for this happiness to my little brother and the most amazingly sweet woman I have ever come across, my sister in law. If there was ever a perfect example for a nice, warm, humble, simple and down to earth human being it has to be her.
As you guys must be knowing my folks don’t stay together for the last 4 ½ -5 years so there have been only 4 men living in this house. Dad, me, my brother and chottu. When the house is filled with 4 men you can imagine its chaos throughout. Though dad has done his best trying to discipline us but being the brats we are (especially me) its kinda difficult to control us completely. So I was kinda apprehensive when my brothers wedding was fixed and by the time the D-day approached my brain was doing somersaults with tension and a bit of fear. Call it being selfish but I don’t think I was ready to accept a woman in my house. To be completely honest I still am a little guarded. But I am sure she being the woman she is very soon I will be able to put my guard down.
What kinda woman is she? According to me she is everything a woman should be. Smart, intelligent, funny and honest. My brother is one hell of a lucky guy to find her. And hey, she is very lucky too. My brother is a charming rogue. Someone who can sweep you of your feet in a matter of seconds. In more ways than one, he is everything that I am not. A complete sweet talker, unabashedly rougish(in a charming way) and shamelessly flirtatious. He can make you laugh in a matter of seconds. A darling who will win your heart in an instant. All I can say is that theirs is a match made some where up above with the blessings of him. Thank you so much brother and dear sister in law for giving me these moments that I will treasure till my end. God bless both of you.
Anyways, coming back to today, I realised one thing, that real happiness doesn’t lie in big things but in small and little things. Today I realised that one big day will not you give you a lifetime full of happiness but little things done every day will. Its very easy to do something special occasionally but small things done with love and passion every single day will you give happiness that will be envious. I realised it today while watching the videos that inspite of my foot being broken and me ending each day in tremendous pain I was happy with my little efforts gone in the wedding preparations. I remember I had decided to do a dance for my brothers engagement and at the end of it he came and hugged me. It felt as if in that hug we gave and took each other a piece of our heart. It was magical, I cant explain what I felt. But it seemed as if we strengthened a bond that we carried from our mothers womb. I have never been someone who could express my feelings. I just cant talk. Always been like that even with family. But I promise myself, that henceforth I will make whatever effort it takes on my part to be connected with my family.
Its funny how a commitment phobic guy like me can actually think of having a family. Agreed I always wanted to get married since childhood but ever since mom n dad separated I have been slightly scared of it too. But maybe, just maybe that fear is slowly evaporating. Maybe I am getting ready. I love the whole concept of weddings. Find or choose a person you want to spend the rest of life with. Commit to him/her and honour it with what ever it takes. Kinda romantic isn’t it? Its just that I am scared of it. But honest to goodness I have never seen dad happy like this. He was glowing. His face could have lit up the park my brother got married in. and I would like to believe that the smile would be bigger and better on my wedding. Trust me, that’s a good enough reason for me to get married.
TERROR KA BAAP KAUN ???
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you know what.. after a long long time.. i am reading something with a big satisfied happy smile on my face.. i am so very very happy for you and your family.. i just hope and pray that this happiness goes from strength to strength...
Touchwood!
and the best thing to come out of all this good.. is that.. you've realised that it's nice to have someone to whom you can come back home to at the end of a hard day's work...
i guess, this big satisfied and happy smile will remain for sometime on my face.. even after i shut down my computer..
God Bless You and Your Family..
Always.
Hitesh, whenever I read your blog, I get so immersed into your story that I find myself living your life. For someone who has difficulty expressing or voiceing his feelings, I must say you've done a tremendous job by writing them down on paper. It is sad about your parents and living in a broken home puts a lot of stress especially on the children, but eventually you come to terms and adjust over time. But I must admit with the absence of your mum in the home, your dad did a remarkable job by raising four sons and encouraging them to live righteously. And the fact that your mum still plays a major role in your life is proof that there is no love lost in your family. I've learned that bloodline does not make a family. A family is made in the heart, giving meaning to life and based on unconditional love and acceptance which is characteristic of what we already have among us. Families not only bond as a unit but individually as well. In addition to sharing friendship and trust, families work alongside one another's personal journeys and in your case it was the wedding of your younger brother that brought you closer. We each evolve as a result through the process of sharing thoughts and experiences. Like you mentioned when your brother hugged you you felt this bond...this strengthened connection. The only fitting description for this connection is "family". In a world where we each feel so alone we can turn to each other and be understood, be supported, and most importantly, be loved. We can laugh together, cry together, grow together and in the same process we are helping ourselves and each other,come closer as one strong unit. It is my hope that this very special family bond that you share will continue to develop and prosper for the rest of your lives. The stronger it becomes, the stronger you become, both independently and collectively. A family is a valued cultural blessing.
arre waah the hug part reminds me of a qoute by an unknown person in some of the book i read-'distances dont brk relationships,being near doesnt build relationshps and a smile on the others face never deprives u of one instead gives u another one'
You write good.. !
I think you are like me in so many ways. I wanna get married someday but it scares me like hell to promise my entirely life to someone.
I hope you end up with the woman in your dreams and find true happiness like your brother.
Next time i will comment you more but now i wanna go back to my msn;)
Its amazing how circumstances change relationships. We go on with our lives.. our relationships evolving.. some get stronger while others we leave behind. In this web of tangled associations, if there is one thing that keeps me strong and helps me have faith in myself .. its my family. My parents may not understand the work i do or the life i live. They may not even understand why i want the things that i want in life.
They reprimand me when they think i'm wrong and encourage me to do the things they think are right .. but .. when i go ahead and do exactly as i please .. i know that even if the world turns against me, i'll still have them by my side.
They have protected me and at the same time allowed me to make mistakes and learn from them. They have made endless sacrifices .. they still do.. to keep me happy. Its like i am the centre of their world.
Unfortunately, i have never appreciated the things they have done for me and have always taken them for granted. Things have never really been great between us and unfortunately.. as always.. there is no one person to blame. I realize this now with much regret as i know its too late. In a few hours from now i will leave home and begin a new life in a new city.
I just hope that some day i will have the courage to look them in the eye and tell them that i love them(its easier said than done).
Its wise to make amends while you can and its worth putting yourself on the line when it comes to family.
I hope you enjoy these signs of new budding relationships and the maturing of some older ones.
Wishing you love and success in all you do.
Wow its going to be one year of their marriage soon Masha'Allah. don't forget to wish them :).and hope to hear good news about u too soon :)and i liked what u said and agree with you that making someone happy really makes us happy too and happiness doesn't exist in big thing solely but in little and small things too.
tc
Nush
'The most important thing in a conversation is to listen to what i snot being said,and the most important thing in a relationship is to understand what is not being expressed' im sure you felt heavenly expereicing it.
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